Some of the most significant messages people deliver to one another often
come in just three words. When spoken or conveyed, those statements have the
power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that
have cooled. The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship.
I'LL BE THERE - Being there for another person is the greatest gift we
can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to
them and to us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored
emotionally and spiritually. 'Being there' is at the very very core of civility.
I MISS YOU - Perhaps more marriages could be salvaged and strengthened if
couples simply and sincerely said to each other, "I miss you." This powerful
affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.
I RESPECT YOU - Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys
the feeling that another person is a true equal. It is a powerful way to affirm
the importance of a relationship.
MAYBE YOU'RE RIGHT - This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an
argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side of "maybe you're right" is
the humility of admitting "maybe I'm wrong."
PLEASE FORGIVE ME - Many broken relationships could be restored and
healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us
are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to
own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is
wiser today than he was yesterday.
I THANK YOU - Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who
enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily
courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many
expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is
severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
COUNT ON ME - "A friend is one who walks in when others walk out,"
Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue
that bonds people. Those who are rich in their relationships tend to be steady
and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there, indicating "you
can count on me."
LET ME HELP - The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When
they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they
pitch in and help.
I UNDERSTAND YOU - People become closer and enjoy each other more if they
feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting others know in so
many little ways that you understand him or her is one of the most powerful
tools for healing your relationship.
GO FOR IT - Some of your friends may be non conformists, have unique
projects and unusual hobbies. Support them in pursuing their interests. Rather
than urging your loved ones to conform, encourage their uniqueness-everyone has
dreams that no one else has.
I suppose the 3 little words that you were expecting to see have to be reserved
for those who are special; that is I LOVE YOU. |